By Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller
The authors of Motivate Your Child say that, rather than prompting your child to do what’s right by using external motivation (a belt, for example, or maybe a donut), it’s best to help them develop their own God-given internal motivation. Let children develop a real sense of right and wrong, and they are better off in the long run. They become more mature, and make wise decisions independently of their parents.
The authors present a refreshing, unselfish, and wise way of parenting. They also promote giving children freedom in making decisions:
“Asking teens, ‘What’s your plan?’ instead of barging in and demanding instant obedience can be a way of teaching them to be responsible.”
After reading this book, I plan to make some immediate changes, and I’m convinced they’ll be positive.
Though the authors have some great things to say, their approach is often too scientific for me. Here’s an example:
“Kara was on the right track but needed more information about what the conscience does and how it operates so she could develop a specific strategy for her daughter. Whether your child is a preschooler, in elementary school, or a teenager, a deeper understanding of the conscience can increase his or her internal motivation.”
Another difficulty is getting used to the author’s terminology: action point, instruction process, heart-based approach, parental cues, conscience development. There’s nothing wrong with any of these; I just prefer a simpler style.
I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.