By Josh Hatcher
Josh Hatcher says that “our culture has somehow begun to assassinate masculinity,” and with that I agree.
Many things contribute to this—a lack of positive male role models (or, in some cases, a complete absence), no “rites of passage” in our culture, Justin Bieber, whatever. But it’s up to us men to fix it.
The author says that being a true man requires training—much like running a race. “Just about the only thing that you can tackle without training is the art of being a slob or a mook.” (I had to look ‘mook’ up on the online slang dictionary. My favorite definition was, “An oaf, a loud boor, a witlessly enthusiastic fan of insignificant things or events.”)
I especially like his first pillar of manhood—personal responsibility. As Hatcher says, “It is the core of manhood.”
“Stop blaming racism, politics, bullies, your crappy parents, your ex-wife, your lack of friends or anything else for your problems.”
In other words, man up.
Here’s another great piece of advice: “Delete your games. During downtime, read instead of playing Candy Crush.” Do men really play Candy Crush?
Other examples of the pillars are work, leadership, commitment, relationships, learning, and more.
I agree with all of Hatcher’s pillars and philosophy. Even for a 41 year old, these are good reminders. The book would be especially helpful for a younger fellow.
While Hatcher’s writing style is clear, it is full of clichés—“Your attitude determines your altitude,” for instance. Also, like many self-published books (including my own), this book needs another round of editing, but the mistakes are mostly small and don’t take from the message. Hatcher’s catchy lines make up for it:
“Passivity is really a crappy substitute for manhood. But it’s as common as facial hair on a hipster.”
But that line also leads to another minor criticism: Hatcher commonly uses words (crappy, for instance) that you would expect more to hear from a college student than a man. I get that this is a book to guys, but it’s also a book about being mature, so write like it.
Hatcher also uses some uncommon words that, to this reviewer, work well and make the book fun: “manlihood,” “countability,” (not the same as accountability, but close), “wrinklier.” Like I’ve said about my own children’s made up words, if they work, why not?
Another thing I like about this author is that he isn’t preachy or condescending; he’s actually quite humble:
“I know I’ve not been a perfect father—but I am proud of how my kids are turning out. Sometimes because of me and sometimes in spite of me.”
That’s a man I can relate to.
Is this topic important? Of course. “If you are a better man, the world is a better place.”